Wednesday, 28 December 2016

LIFE: 5 Goals for 2017

I hope you've had a really lovely Christmas and that Santa delivered the goods!

With the unpredictability of 2016 in mind, I want to keep more of a focus during 2017. Bad things happen but getting through them is all about the way you deal with them.

As I said, I didn't really manage to complete my goals at all this season but I did, however, tick two things off my Bucket List. I visited Cornwall and had my helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon (as incredible as I'd hoped). I did the quick tour where you just fly through and that's probably the only thing I regret - I wish I'd have had longer there. I was limited for time as I only had an extra day and a half and I desperately wanted to lay in the sunshine and relax as I'd not really had the opportunity for the majority of 2016.

I did actually visit way more than 5 new places - not necessarily for a holiday, city break etc - but I saw lots of different places. As I said, we went to Cornwall and I spent my birthday in Harrogate with H. I became a National Trust member just before my birthday in April and we've visited no end of new places - all over the Midlands, Oxfordshire, Northamptonshire. I've also visited a load of different places in the Cotswolds as it's not too far away - and it's quickly become one of my favourite areas to go for a walk, hop from coffee shop to coffee shop or just nip for a quick G&T at a little village pub.

I am a little closer to getting a sausage dog, it's possible this will happen in the Spring. Hooray! 

I must admit, I'm not usually one to wish away the rest of a year but I will be glad to start a new year. I'm not all about the 'new year, new me' thing but I think putting some of the goings on from this year behind me will be good for me.

I'm keeping my goals for 2017 short - mostly because last year's 10 were probably a little bit of a stretch to achieve. I mean, where I thought I'd have the funds to get a sausage dog puppy, swap my car, go skiing, visit five new places and tick five things off my bucket list is quite funny on reflection.

My 5 for 2017:

Buy less.
I am a complete overspender. I buy waaaay beyond my means pretty much every month and then stress myself out when I have to live on very little money every month.
I've come to realise I don't really have a great deal to show from working life - considering I've worked from the age of 15. I've never really bought anything substantial. So in a bid to stop myself fretting, I'm going to buy less. Less clothes, less shoes (the hardest of all!!) and less crap that I don't really need.

Stop smoking.
I have been smoking on and off for years now and have probably been a consistent full time smoker for the last two or three years. I spend a fortune on it even though I don't consider myself a heavy smoker. But smoking isn't good full stop, I know.
It's not only bad for my health (pointing out the obvious) but it's really bad for my bank balance. As a family friend said to me last week - the money I spend each month on cigarettes would pay monthly for that new car I said I'd get in 2016.

Visit more of the places on my bucket list.
Main travel goals for next year are to go to Lisbon, Marrakech, Edinburgh, Bordeaux and Nice. I've been to Nice before as a child but have no memory of it. I'd love to get to San Francisco if I'm over in America as I know flights aren't cheap BUT if I am being stricter on my overspending ways, that may be put on the back burner. Experiences over possessions tend to be much more fulfilling.

Take more time for me.
This year I guess I've been in a bit of a rut. Looking at my Instagram, you'll see me here, there and everywhere...but behind the Instagram, there's been a lot of anxiety, a lot of umming and ahhing about things. I promised myself when I moved house in July that I'd start practicing yoga again at least once a week, I'd go back to spin class and I'd do all of these really positive, motivational things. I'll admit, I've not really done any of it. I've sporadically gone to yoga and loved it when I've gone - sometimes it's all about routine but when you've got a job that doesn't allow you a routine, you've got to find that inner motivation to take time for yourself. I want to read more, switch the TV off more, get out in the fresh air, go to my yoga and spin classes...just take care of myself. When you get swept up in work, life dramas and general laziness, you forget to take time to listen to your mind and your body and what it needs. I haven't been kind to my body or my mind this year and that is something I will be continuing to work on, not just for the end of 2016 or for the entirety of 2017 but as a long term goal. Without a clear head, a well looked after body and just taking some time to think 'screw everything else, this is time for me', you can really be stuck in that rut longer than you anticipate.

Sooo sorry about the crazy long post BUT, it was totally necessary.

Stop being so all or nothing.
This has been something I've realised I'm bad at this year. I am either super duper busy, doing allll of the sociable things - basically being a little bit like a whirlwind - or I literally want to stay in the house, see nobody, do nothing and I become a bit of a Debbie Downer. And it's made me realise, similarly to taking more time for me (as I've said above), that I need to find a bit more of a balance. I need to know that I don't need to do EVERYTHING every weekend. Similarly, on the weekends where I feel like I really don't want to leave the house, I need to at least go out and have a walk or something. Obviously it's been a bit of a stressful year but I've found myself getting overwhelmed very easily by doing too much or too little. I think it's okay to want to be busy and also it's okay to want to not really do much but unfortunately for me, it can affect my mental health a little and make me feel really anxious so I have now acknowledged this is something I really need to work on.

And one extra...spend my time more wisely.
I've said before, but after graduating, going travelling and moving to different places, it is SO hard to find time to catch up with friends sometimes. I see my best friend Emily a lot as her boyfriend doesn't live too far away from me but a chunk of my friends live in Manchester/Stockport, some in London, some at various other places in the Midlands...and although we have our occasional weekends together, it's hard to make the time regularly - we all find it. I mean, when we are together it is no different and we still speak most weeks but yeah, it's harder to maintain friendships as you get older because everybody's lives have changed or people are just busy. So yes, I want to spend my time more wisely. It's not practical to think I'll see everybody every single month but, as I recently discussed with my uni friends when we had our Christmas weekend in London, every 3 or 4 months we should arrange a weekend - whether it's at my house, in London, in Sheffield or just a weekend away somewhere for all of us - to make sure we have regular time together but without putting massive pressure on ourselves to catch up every month.

This will be my last post now before the New Year so I hope you've all had a lovely Christmas and enjoy your New Year celebrations.

What are your goals for 2017?


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